Friends....

what happens when your friends get attached? they either spend most of their time on their better halves or bring their better halves along most of the time or they do not mix the time that they spend with their friends and better halves.. there are also instances that you seldom contact your friends etc...

what happens when one of your friends' better half don't like you or some common friends? do they 1) try their best to talk to their better half in accepting that this is a friend 2) tell the friend that we should not contact each other as long as i am attached to my current better half 3) tell the better half that my friends and i come together... 4) try to resolve the matter between better half and friend

looking at the above choices, non of them are easy choices... which i think most people will try to do the 1st then resort to the most extreme and hurting choice, not contact each other.... maybe i'm not attached yet, hence in the shoes as a friend, if my friend chooses the 2nd choice, i would be very hurt and very sad... though the decision will be respected, i probably would be hestitate the next time i see the number flashing on my hp...

if its a common friend in a group, it makes it even more difficult cos friends would be asking etc... and when such things are made known, honestly as people around them, its going to be tough to maintain a neutral stand... to try to put onself in the shoes and try as much as possble to understand is going to be super tough and not everyone can do it.. for those who can't do it, would prob view that, yes, it is your better half, but haven't you been friends for a longer period than this better half of yours? should this come into consideration as well? the other school of thought would be, let me try to gain trust etc from my better half as the it is still a growing seed... after a while, the friendship can be picked up from where we left of... there is not right or wrong ans, only what suits you the best when the situation arises...

honestly, i don't know.... even during group outings, not much of quality conversation is done... soemtimes i even feel that they don't care what goes on in your life anymore.... the one that you thought is closest to you compared to others in the group, is too busy or not paying much atention to what you say when you seek for opinions or support, in the end, its those who are relatively good friends but not the closest that show their concern... well, it hurts.. come to think of it, not fair for me to expect these things from anyone, but for people who know me, i really give you my full attention when you are upset or just need a listening ear... sometimes, i just wanna shout out, what about me?!? good friends who have always lent me a listening ear or support, i really thank you for your attention....
sometimes, for friends who are too busy, i always try my best not to call them, cos i always catch them a a busy or wrong time... so i end up not calling and waiting for them to call.. tough tough tough... maybe they also see me as unconcern with what's going on in their lives etc... there is always 2 sides of a coin isn't it??

i hope i don't end up walking away or drifting away cos the first pair of shoes given to a friend, well he has drifted away.. i'm the second one who got the shoes.. well, i am not pandang cos i actually see the gesture of the gift as different, as just a cash voucher given for me to buy what i want... not something that they thought of... haha.. so Ah Q.. something wrong with me man... haahaa