Expectations in a relationship

Talked to him on expectations in a relationship today...

it was quite interesting in a sense that we view expectations in a relationship in a different way... his view on expecations in a relationship is that, don't have expectations when you may not be able to meet up to the other party's expectations... so best is not to have any expectations when you can't meet up to the other party's.

well for me, i find that not having any expectations in any kind of relationships is kinda of impossible.. in life, you will always have certain benchmarks that you will already have... i find that having expectations is unavoidable, but it is alo important to not be too upset or disappointed when they are not met... a lot of times, we expect someone to do this, but when this person doesn't do it, we feel upset... we will react to the "no action taken" which does in a way either brings improvement or unhappiness to the relationship... i guess as girls there have been many situations whereby we feel upset cos the other person just didn't do what we expected... especially in the matters of the heart.. and the thing is, we remember all these things as well... up till now, i have learnt (through the hard way) that sometimes, its good to not have much expectations or not to react too much to umet expectations.. cos that will only make me feel upset... 生闷气, get irritable and god knows what kind of terms are used...

one sentence,. don't think too much or read too much into things.. and maybe just maybe, the course of the relationship maybe a happier one... =)